A few months ago, I wrote a post about a few life lessons I’d learnt since I started living on my own, and there was one part in particular that received a lot of comments from people who’d read it, and that was about feeling lonely. For those who were yet to move out on their own, feeling lonely was something they feared, and for those like me already living solo, it was a feeling that was all to familiar. Yet admitting to feeling lonely when you’re in your twenties is something that seems almost taboo.
After all, your twenties are the best years of your life. They’re filled with endless adventures and screen worthy romances, travels around the world and surrounding yourself with amazing friends. How could you ever feel lonely in your twenties?!
Well I’m calling BS on that.
My name is Bee, I’m 27 years old and I feel lonely.
Not every day, thankfully, but there are so many days when that feeling of loneliness just seems so overwhelming that I can’t imagine it ever going away.
As I’ve said previously, I’ve always found it difficult spending time by myself and whilst it’s something I’m getting a lot better at, there are times when being alone becomes unbearable, especially on a weekend if haven’t had much on and it started to feel like I’ve gone days without talking to another human being. There’s been so many times where I’ve actually been really looking forward to going back to work on Monday just so I wouldn’t have to be alone anymore!
I also used to think it was something I had to hide. When people asked how my weekend was, I’d lie and say it was great, when in reality, I’d spent most of it feeling pretty miserable. I guess I felt like it was too embarrassing to admit how I really felt, or that people would think less of me in some way.
But you know what, there’s nothing to be ashamed of.
When I actually started talking about it, I was surprised to hear how many people had felt the same at one point or another and it made me feel so much better to realise that I wasn’t alone in feeling lonely.
So there you have it. Feeling lonely in your twenties is completely normal and talking about it can make you feel a lot better and a little less alone.
Until next time xoxo